LOOKING FOR ANSWER

I am facing a divorce, what can I do?
Our Lord desires that you experience His love and comfort even in the midst of these circumstances.

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I know we're supposed to forgive people who've hurt us, but I'd rather get even.
Billy Graham writes, "If you do this, you'll be driven by anger and a desire to hurt others—and this should be a danger signal to your soul."

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My wife just divorced me because of my drinking. What should I do?
Billy Graham writes, "I urge you, as the first step in your recovery, to turn your life over to Christ. ... You can't change the past—but with Christ you can face the future."

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My marriage has turned into one long shouting match. Is it over?
Billy Graham writes, "No, it doesn't need to be at an end—and God doesn't want it to end."

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I've been married three times. Does God reject me because I've ignored Him?
Billy Graham writes, "You have ignored God most of your life—and you have paid the price. But why stay on this road any longer?"

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My wife walked out after 32 years of marriage. You'll say God can help me, but how?
Billy Graham writes, "The most important thing I can say to you is that God loves you, and He knows what has happened to you. Ask Him to help you begin to see yourself through His eyes."

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I knew being divorced and becoming a single mom would be hard, but what I didn't expect was the desire to strike back.
Billy Graham writes, "Pray for your former husband that he will repent and come to Christ. And pray daily for God's strength and wisdom as you raise your children."

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My wife has moved out. I've been a lousy husband, but do you think God would bring her back if I prayed hard enough?
Billy Graham writes, "Your first prayer should be for yourself—a prayer that God will forgive your sins (including your failures as a husband), and that Christ will come to live within you."

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My ex-husband has custody of our children and tells them the divorce was all my fault. They think he can do no wrong. Do you think I should tell them the truth?
Billy Graham writes, "I urge you not to try to turn your children against their father. Make it your goal instead to let them know you love them."

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My husband and I broke up our first marriages in order to get married, and although that was years ago I still feel guilty.
Billy Graham writes, "Every decision we make has consequences, and if we do something wrong, we have to live with the results. But God still loves you."

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Our son vowed he'd never remarry after his first wife left him, but last month he met someone he wants to marry. Should we say anything?
Billy Graham writes, "Let him know that you love him and respect him, and tell him you hope he will think through what he's doing because you know this is a major decision."

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My wife and I are legally separated, and it's about broken my heart. Is there any hope for us?
Billy Graham writes, "Keep praying, and do whatever you can to let your wife know of your love. If you also were at fault in some way, confess it to God and seek His forgiveness—as well as your wife's."

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My cousin is considering leaving his wife. Do you think the devil can put thoughts into a person's mind?
Billy Graham writes, "There is much we don't know about the devil's methods, but we do know we need to be alert and constantly on guard against him, and not let ourselves be led astray by his lies."

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My ex-husband makes a lot of empty promises to our kids. Should I tell them he's lying?
Billy Graham writes, "Avoid letting whatever bitterness or anger you feel from your divorce spill over on your children. No, you can't change the past, but you can try to keep its damage at a minimum."

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I left my husband a few months ago, and now I've gotten involved with another man. I don't know how I got into this mess.
Billy Graham writes, "Right now, you may feel lonely and unloved, and perhaps this is why you've gotten into the relationship. But it will never provide the love and emotional security you crave."

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I'm in jail for stealing money, and my wife is filing for divorce. Is there anything I can do?
Billy Graham writes, "I wish I could promise that your wife's attitude will change—but I can't. What I can do is urge you to do everything possible to save your marriage—and the first step is to commit your life and your future to God."

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I have been married for three months, and I'm wondering if we made a bad mistake. Wouldn't it be better to get out now?
Billy Graham writes, "Many couples experience what you're going through, and I sincerely hope you won't let these 'bumps in the road' discourage you or make you do something wrong."

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One of my two sons never had much to do with me after my husband and I divorced, and after his father died he cut off all contact.
Billy Graham writes, "I'm sure you probably did the best you knew how to do under the circumstances, and you shouldn't bear the weight of responsibility for everything that's happened with your son."

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When my husband walked out, I thought all my problems were over. But no one told me about the financial problems that single mothers have.
Billy Graham writes, "Divorce always has consequences, and they are almost always painful—as you have discovered. ... Divorce isn't the end, however, nor is it the unforgivable sin."

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Why do I make so many wrong decisions? I've been married (and divorced) four times.
Billy Graham writes, "Others may mistreat you or abandon you—but God never will, for He loves you and wants you to be part of His family forever."