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I'm a woman in my late 20s, and I'm afraid to get married. Is marriage just a game of chance?
Billy Graham writes, "No, marriage is not a game of chance—if you put it in God's hands and seek His will for your marriage."

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If I give my life to Jesus, do you think He will get my ex-wife and me back together? Do you think God will do that, if I turn to Him?
Billy Graham writes, "I don't know whether or not your marriage will be restored if you turn to Christ (although I have seen it happen, when both partners truly submitted their lives to Him)."

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I became a Christian recently, and although my ex-husband and I divorced many years ago, I know it was mainly my fault. Should I ask for forgiveness?
Billy Graham writes, "When we know we've hurt someone, we ought to seek to make it right—and the only way to do that is to admit we were wrong and ask for their forgiveness. This isn't necessarily easy—but it's the right thing to do."

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How do you know if your marriage is over? I found out a few months ago that my husband has been seeing another woman. I don't know what to do.
Billy Graham writes, "Almost nothing in life is more painful than being betrayed by a spouse. It rips at the heart and grieves the soul, and no one escapes unhurt."

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My wife died two years ago, and the hardest part has been the loneliness. Am I doomed to be lonely the rest of my life?
Billy Graham writes, "God knows your situation, and the most important thing I can tell you is to seek His will for your future. He loves you, and He alone knows what is best for you."

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I got divorced, and now I've fallen in love again. My mother is telling me to go slow. I wish she'd back off and let me run my own life. How can I get this across to her?
Billy Graham writes, "Your mother cares about you; if she didn't, she wouldn't be trying to get you to be more cautious. She knows the pain you went through with your divorce and doesn't want you to go through it again."

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My mother is constantly giving my wife and me advice and interfering in our lives. She said the Bible says children ought to obey their parents. Is she right?
Billy Graham writes, "The Bible does teach that children should be obedient to their parents, for if they aren't, they may well grow up to be irresponsible and undisciplined. But this verse doesn't apply to children who have grown up and gotten married."

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My divorce finally went through, and all my friends say I ought to be delighted since my ex-husband was very abusive and irresponsible. Instead, I find myself very depressed.
Billy Graham writes, "Divorce has sometimes been compared to the death of someone who's been close to us—and with good reason."

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My boyfriend says he'll stop drinking if we get married, but my parents don't believe him and are strongly opposed to our relationship.
Billy Graham writes, "If your boyfriend truly loved you, he'd be willing right now to sacrifice anything that got in the way of that love—including his drinking."

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My husband and I got married a year ago. Our stepchildren don't get along, and sometimes I wonder if it would be better for us just to split up.
Billy Graham writes, "Have you ever noticed that what looks like the easy way out of a problem usually turns out to be the wrong way?"

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I work during the day and my husband works the night shift, so we almost never have any real time together. We need the money, but this is really causing problems in our marriage. What can we do?
Billy Graham writes, "This is why the most important thing I can urge you to do is to seek God's will as you seek to solve this problem."

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Our parents are insisting my boyfriend and I wait until we get out of college before we get married, but we don't want to do this. Would it be wrong for us to get married secretly?
Billy Graham writes, "I sincerely hope you both will stop and consider carefully what your parents are telling you."

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I've led a pretty wild life. About a month ago, however, I accepted Jesus, and my life is totally different now. But how can I explain this to my husband?
Billy Graham writes, "I'm very thankful you've come to Christ and discovered the peace and joy only He can give us."

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My boyfriend admits he has a problem with alcohol sometimes, but he says if we get married he'll stop drinking. Do you think he means what he says?
Billy Graham writes, "He may sincerely plan to stop drinking if you go ahead and marry him—but how do you know he will?"

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My boyfriend and I are living together. My parents are upset about this, but I don't see anything wrong with it. What do you think?
The real question isn't how your parents see this, or how your friends see it, or even how you see it. The real question is this: How does God see it? What is His attitude toward what you are doing?

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Two years ago, my husband had an affair. I think I've forgiven him, but how can I ever forget? And how can I ever trust him again?
Billy Graham writes, "Almost nothing is as devastating and hurtful as being betrayed by a spouse—a spouse who breaks the vow they took on their wedding day and deliberately pursues someone else."

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My wife is demanding that I either join her religious group or she's going to move out. What's going on?
Billy Graham writes, "Elsewhere in your letter, you mention the name of the group that has attracted your wife, and unfortunately, it is a cult that has a reputation for demanding absolute loyalty from its followers—even if it means leaving their families."

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My wife has lost interest in everything. Some mornings, she can't even get out of bed. What should I do?
Billy Graham writes, "I am not a doctor, of course, but I strongly urge you to bring this problem to the attention of your doctor. Don't be afraid or embarrassed to do this ..."

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I'm a widow who wants to get married to a widower, but he just wants me to move in with him because he says he'll lose some tax benefits if we get married. What would you advise?
Billy Graham writes, "Which is better in God's eyes: to do what is right (and lose a few dollars), or to do what is wrong (and save a few dollars)? I think you know the answer."

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How can I break through my husband's shell and make him see he needs to give his life to Jesus?
Billy Graham writes, "I'm thankful you want to see your husband come to Christ; not only does he need Jesus for his eternal salvation, but he would be a better and happier person if he had Christ in his heart."