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Strength to Say No

July 1, 2010 - More than 100 years ago a man living in London was converted to Christ. He became pastor of a church in the slums of London. He went to the poor, the down and out and the oppressed. He formed a little group of people called the Hallelujah Band, and he would stand on street corners and preach the Gospel.

Strength to Say No

Are you following the Lord Jesus? Or are you following the pleasures of this world and fulfilling the lusts of your own heart?

Strength to Say No

Many of the clergy were embarrassed by it all. The man was called before a conference of religious leaders, who said, “William Booth, will you go where we tell you to go? If not, you will be defrocked.” In the balcony a woman stood. She was Booth’s wife, Catherine. She said, “William, say, ‘No, never!’” And he said, “No.” That no changed history in Great Britain and in many other parts of the world, as Booth founded the Salvation Army, which has given help for both body and soul wherever it has gone.

I want to ask you a question: What is the most difficult word for young people to pronounce? It’s the word no.

In the Bible there is a story about a woman by the name of Vashti (Esther 1). She was queen of Persia and the wife of Xerxes (Ahasuerus), who reigned over territory from India to Ethiopia.

Xerxes gave a feast for the various princes, governors and leaders of the entire country—they came from everywhere. His feast lasted seven days, and it was a pagan feast.

On the seventh day of the feast, as Xerxes became drunk, he did something that absolutely startled his guests. He said, “I’m going to bring my queen out here. I want you to look at her. She’s the most beautiful woman in the world. And so he ordered Vashti, his wife, to come to that drunken orgy. She sent word back and said, “No, I will not come.”

Vashti was ready to give up every luxury that she had to keep herself pure. She would not expose her body, would not degrade her character, even though she surely knew there would be grave consequences if she did not obey.

When we say no, God will help us to stand by it. He will give us courage. You say, “But the temptations are so great. I can’t resist them.” Of course you can’t. In my own strength I can’t either. We cannot live pure lives without the help of God. We need to give our lives to Jesus Christ, let Him come in and help us to live during these times of wickedness.

There was a man in the Scriptures who said no. His name was Daniel. He “purposed in his heart that he would not defile himself with the portion of the king’s delicacies, nor with the wine which he drank” (Daniel 1:8).

Daniel was a young man who had found a purpose in life. As a teenager, he had been captured by the Babylonians. He was taken to Babylon to be trained in all their ways. But Daniel refused to eat the king’s meat or drink the king’s wine, even though he knew how dangerous that refusal would be.

How different Daniel was from those who can’t wait until they get away from home to live it up. Daniel was a long way from home. He could have yielded; no one back home would have known the difference. Daniel knew that it might mean death to refuse the king. This early no in Daniel’s life prepared him for the big no when he faced the den of lions (Daniel 6:4-23) and when he refused the gifts that Belshazzar promised him if he would interpret the handwriting on the wall (Daniel 5:16-17).

We defile ourselves. How? By eating too much; drinking too much alcohol; taking drugs; watching movies that are wrong; watching too much television.

In Luke 21:34 we read, “Take heed to yourselves, lest your hearts be weighed down with carousing, drunkenness, and cares of this life, and that Day come on you unexpectedly.” What day? We don’t know the day or the hour, but we know there is a day coming in which we will have to give an account before God at the Judgment, because God is a God of judgment.

There’s another man in the Bible, by the name of Joseph. He also said no. Joseph was sold into Egypt and became a slave to Potiphar, who was a top man to the emperor, Pharaoh. Joseph was strong; he was handsome. And Potiphar’s wife found him appealing. She begged him to have sex with her. But he said no.

Day after day she begged him, trying to wear him down. And time after time Joseph resisted and said no.

One day, when everyone was out of the house, she grabbed him and said, “Come with me to bed.” Once again Joseph said no, and he pulled away. As he did, she took his coat and kept it. Then when her husband came home, she accused Joseph to her husband and said, “This slave has tried to seduce me” (Genesis 39:1-20).

The Bible doesn’t say that sex is a sin. Sex was given to us by God for a purpose—for enjoyment within the bonds of matrimony, for the continuation of the human race. It is a gift from God. But we abuse it and use it the wrong way. God has judged nation after nation, and family after family, and person after person because of misusing this gift of God.

The Apostle Paul wrote to Timothy, “Keep yourself pure” (1 Timothy 5:22). And he told him, “Flee youthful lusts” (2 Timothy 2:22). He said run! When the temptation comes, don’t just sit there and think about it. Run as fast as you can away from it.

Paul also wrote, “I discipline my body and bring it into subjection” (1 Corinthians 9:27). He did that with God’s help.

Another man in the Bible who encountered a similar situation was Moses. The Bible says, “By faith Moses, when he became of age, refused to be called the son of Pharaoh’s daughter, choosing rather to suffer affliction with the people of God than to enjoy the passing pleasures of sin” (Hebrews 11:24-25).

Moses had to make a choice, just as we have to make choices. Moses, as heir to the throne of Egypt, had the choice of accepting all the pleasures of Egypt. But one day he made a choice. Moses said no to all that was offered. He said, “I’ll go suffer with the people of God. I choose God rather than these pleasures.”

There is a difference between pleasure and joy. The Bible says, “He who loves pleasure will be a poor man” (Proverbs 21:17). When we love pleasure, we are poor, if that is what we are seeking. Scripture also talks about people who are “lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God” (2 Timothy 3:4). Do you love pleasure more than you love God?

When we come to Jesus Christ, the Holy Spirit comes to dwell in our hearts. Joy is produced by the Holy Spirit. More than 100 Scriptures talk about the joy of the Lord. That was the announcement at that first Christmas: “Do not be afraid, for behold, I bring you good tidings of great joy which will be to all people” (Luke 2:10).

If you take a stand and mean it, you may suffer persecution. Some of your friends will drift away. They don’t want to be with people like you. You speak to their conscience. They feel uncomfortable in your presence because you live for God. Jesus said, “Blessed are you when men hate you, and when they exclude you, and revile you, and cast out your name as evil, for the Son of Man’s sake. Rejoice in that day and leap for joy! For indeed your reward is great in heaven, for in like manner their fathers did to the prophets” (Luke 6:22-23).

Jesus said, “Rejoice, because your names are written in heaven.” Make the choice that Moses made—he turned his back on pleasure and followed God’s way. The Scriptures say, “Count it all joy when you fall into various trials” (James 1:2). Moses chose the joy of following God rather than having the pleasures of Egypt.

Are you following the Lord Jesus? Or are you following the pleasures of this world and fulfilling the lusts of your own heart?

When Jesus was tempted, He didn’t debate the devil. He quoted Scripture: “It is written … It is written … It is written …” (Matthew 4:4-10). And each time the devil was defeated.

Satan can be defeated! When we are filled with the Spirit of God, obeying God, in His will and quoting Scripture, Satan will be defeated. The devil left Jesus, and angels came and helped Him.

Are you willing to say no, whatever the cost? Then say yes to the claims of Christ. He will come into your heart right now.

Jesus Christ loves you so much that He died on the cross and shed His blood for you. That’s the reason that He came to this earth. That’s the reason that He died on the cross. He died for you. Your sins have been placed on Jesus Christ, and He rose from the dead for you to give you everlasting life.

You need to do three things:

First, repent. What does repentance mean? It means to change—to change your mind, change the way that you’re living—and to determine that with God’s help you will live for Christ.

Second, come to Christ by faith. You cannot understand it all. You never will. I don’t understand, but I come by simple, childlike faith and surrender to Jesus Christ as Savior and Lord. I’m asking you to make that commitment.

Third, follow Jesus Christ. Follow Him, obey Him and serve Him as best you can. You won’t be perfect. But you will be changed.

You may be a member of a church. You may have been baptized or confirmed. You may be a “good person.” But deep inside you are not sure how you stand before God. You know that you need Jesus Christ in your heart.

You know that you need to change. Make that change now.

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69 Comments

Amos says 3.21.2013, 11:40 a.m.

So timely..praise God.

Fran says 3.23.2012, 08:23 a.m.

I am older now, and the temptations of the world are not as strong or appealing as they were when I was younger. I have a granddaughter going off to college this fall and this article will be printed and laying on her bed when she gets home.

Ashley says 3.21.2012, 1:00 p.m.

Seeing this article today was very timely. Thank you Mr. Graham for your words of wisdom. I have been struggling with saying no to temptations in an area of my life that make me feel continually defeated. This article renews my hope in God's power.

Carol says 3.21.2011, 2:30 p.m.

Thank you for the message and the needed help that this gives me to say no. Please pray for all of my family and friends.

Mike says 10.19.2010, 5:44 p.m.

The Lord brought me past another temptation. I am so very thankful for his power to win over sin.

ogoo says 9.17.2010, 3:22 p.m.

God bless you for choosing to be a blessing to others. You know I was begining to wonder if it's only me that looses friends each time i say no.

Kim says 8.16.2010, 12:22 a.m.

This message spoke to me at a time when I needed it. Thank you for following Jesus.

AMALRAJ says 8.16.2010, 08:15 a.m.

I have always held you in high regard for the grace our Lord has given you to steadfastly remain faithful to the Word of God in your preaching and life. This wonderful message only reinforces it. PRAISE THE LORD!

Steve says 8.13.2010, 6:29 p.m.

I have backslid many times when I could not find the courage to say No. Please pray for me that I will have the strength of God to say no to sin in the future. Please pray that God will accept me back to Him. Pray I build up my Armour of God (Eph 6:10-18) to make a stand.

Bev says 8.13.2010, 00:45 a.m.

Mr. Graham, thank you again for your annointed teaching. God bless you.

Yinka says 8.12.2010, 06:12 a.m.

I thoroughly enjoyed this. Thanks for sharing it with everybody. Much appreciation! Allow me to pass this on please. GBU!

KAMAU says 8.12.2010, 00:24 a.m.

AMEN AMEN MY THE ALMIGHTY GOD BE GLORIFIED STANDING BY HIS SIDE AND DOING HIS WILL HE WILL BE THERE FOR US.

Oyeboade says 8.11.2010, 10:57 p.m.

In a World where daily choices are made a timely word like this is inevitable.I am blessed this morning as i get renewed by the word.

Bishop Samuel (INDIA) says 8.11.2010, 10:41 p.m.

Thanks for this wonderful message. While I was reading this message I was in a desperate situation thinking myself to resign and run away from my Diocese because of people's backbitings. But this in particular made to say NO and so I will stick to my work that has fixed by my Saviour and cloing His Promises and run the race that is ahead before me.Thanks to Billy Graham

Ronald says 8.11.2010, 6:17 p.m.

There couldn't be a more timely message than this one. It needs to be repeated over and over until God's children get the message; get the point. Thank you Dr. Graham for this message.

Jovesa says 8.11.2010, 6:15 p.m.

Thank you Jesus for using Mr. Billy Graham to deliver this wonderful message to us.. It is a message of hope in these times of uncertainties... May all who read it be filled with the Power of the Highest..yes the power of the Holy Spirit.. Thank you Mr. Billy Graham for being an inspiration to my life... Thank you Lord Jesus.

Ruthe says 8.11.2010, 5:21 p.m.

God bless us everyone, in this great time of need and mercy from our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ, our nation is in turmoil, we need to get on our knees and pray for God's forgiveness...........

Karen says 8.11.2010, 5:03 p.m.

God bless you Billy Graham and Franklin Graham. You are such an inspiration. As time goes on, it is going to be harder to stand and say "No". People will be persecuted. But we have an awesome God who is right there beside us. Please, everyone , pray for our country that the USA will put God first. See 2nd Chronicles 7:14.

vernon says 8.11.2010, 4:39 p.m.

I find that the preaching of Billy Graham and Franklin have helped through times in my life

Cynthia says 8.11.2010, 3:40 p.m.

I couldn't agree more.

geri-jean says 8.11.2010, 3:26 p.m.

A timely word for sure. Thank you : )

Patrice says 8.11.2010, 3:26 p.m.

Seriously, this is so true...and God knows we need this message at this time. God bless you Billy Graham and all who love Him.

Rhea says 8.11.2010, 2:46 p.m.

Thank You, Mr. Billy Graham for always having just the right words at just the right time. May the Lord Bless You.

mary says 8.11.2010, 12:35 a.m.

Your sermons are a inspiration on my journey of spiritual growth, God Bless you and your ministry.

Adrian Bustos says 8.4.2010, 01:07 a.m.

Thank you for your life, if I can say: I want to be like you, as you are like Christ. God Bless You.

john says 7.25.2010, 2:28 p.m.

Thank you very much for your message. You taught me the importance of saying No to the the unholy things. Of course it needs Commitment to Lord Jesus.

Ángel Lionel Colón, Ponce PR says 7.21.2010, 11:30 p.m.

I've Been Bless By Your Ministry. LORDS' Blessings For You And Yours.

lisa says 7.21.2010, 2:49 p.m.

'Just say no' another affirmation in the Word!

Samouil Michael says 7.21.2010, 05:32 a.m.

God bless u Mr. Billy for always sharing us the love of JESUS CHRIST and for giving us the truth..I am so grateful to u..God bless u

Robbie says 7.20.2010, 11:39 p.m.

This gives me hope to have the power of Jesus Christ for strength to say "NO."

Laura says 7.20.2010, 10:09 p.m.

Thank you Mr. Graham for your timeless words of encouragement and hope. Thanks for being a person we can all look to as an example of what a real Christian looks like. I've seen it in my grandma who has went to be with the Lord and I see it with you. Thank You for allowing God to use you in such a mighty way. We love you!

Robert says 7.20.2010, 8:17 p.m.

Thank you for all the Biblical encouragement in your sermons! Saying, "No!" to oneself, and persevering in that decision, is the hardest thing anyone has to do, but the Bible is replete with examples for us to learn from and live by. Reading it faithfully and prayerfully is a discipline that can be hard to say, "Yes!" to, at times, because of all the temptations leading us away from doing it. Still, we must learn to say, "No!" to the world and say, "Yes!" to God. Thank you for another sermon rich with Truth from the Lord's Word!

Eddie says 7.20.2010, 6:20 p.m.

Just coming to this site was a miracle since the temptation to visit other non-Christian [sites] was swirling through my mind. Thank you for the encouragement and the insight into God's word. Bless you.

Shannon says 7.20.2010, 12:59 a.m.

THANK YOU!!!

Annette says 7.20.2010, 11:47 a.m.

Thank you so much for this beautiful and most needed message. May God continue to Bless this Ministry.

THOMAS PRABHAKARAN DANIEL says 7.20.2010, 09:42 a.m.

Dear Rev Graham, How true that I backslided by not saying NO to sin. However I surrendered to Christ and confessed my sins and by faith I know He has forgiven my sin.Thank for the message

Linda says 7.20.2010, 09:34 a.m.

Thank you so much for inspiring me to continue in my new journey with the Lord. I needed this today and pray that God continues to bless your ministry so you can continue to teach and inspire us all. God bless you all.

Isaac Afari says 7.20.2010, 09:31 a.m.

Indeed the Word OF GOD refreshes the soul. Thank you for been such a blessing and a vessel of honor to GOD'S kingdom.

Dustin says 7.20.2010, 07:17 a.m.

This is exactly what I needed to hear at this very moment. Nothing is by accident. God had me come to this website and read this message. I really needed to read this. I have been a Christian for many years and overtime have fallen into a lustful lifestyle. I have battled this for many years. In the past I have tried to handle it myself without fully giving control over to God. I cannot change alone but, through Jesus I can. I need to separate myself from situations and objects of temptation. I need to be like Joseph. I just need to say, no! Thank you, Billy Graham. May God continue to bless this ministry and those that surround it.

Elizabeth says 7.20.2010, 07:02 a.m.

Thank you very much for this message. I have learned a lot from it and gained more than I thought I would in the beginning.

juan carlos says 7.20.2010, 02:30 a.m.

Dear Dr. Graham, thank you for the message. I needed it to read it. I have to learn to live in the spirit and say no to many things. Pray that God will help me do it. I thank the Lord for you richly. Bless you brother.

Ben says 7.20.2010, 02:02 a.m.

I find great joy in Jesus; He has changed my life 360 degrees. Praise Jesus for people like you Dr. Billy Graham. You've helped encourage me even when I was in dark times. Thanks for reminding me that Jesus is there with us always. Amen!

Arlene says 7.19.2010, 1:30 p.m.

Thank you so much for always reminding me that God loves me. Today I recommitted my life to Jesus and will follow Him all the days of my life. He set before me life and death, I choose life. He will be my life from this day forward. Thanks for your submission to Him and your encouragement to us.

Tammy says 7.14.2010, 8:46 p.m.

I am learning to walk in the spirit and have the victory in my life. Don't know how i would get through without your ministry Dr. Billy Graham. Watching the sermons on tv, reading these messages, and reading The Journey right now. Help I need prayers. I fail more often than not and I just want to bear fruit even in old age like you. I thank God for you my brother in Christ

Sanchita says 7.12.2010, 12:52 a.m.

My husband and me are always inspired by your articles. It is so true, that sometimes we just don't know when to say "No". I have failed so many times when I have not asked help from Jesus in doing so. This has happened to me even after I have accepted Christ but have failed to obey Him. This is a good reminder for repentance and standing up once again holding on to Jesus.

Diana says 7.11.2010, 00:58 a.m.

Gracias por sus palabras son muy oportunas para mi vida Dios siga bendiciendo abundantemente su ministerio,en el nombre de Jesus amen. (English translation: Thank you for your words. They have been a key in my life. May God continue to abundantly bless your ministry. In the name of Jesus, Amen.)

Marlene says 7.10.2010, 4:12 p.m.

I thank you for your words that bring be back to what is important in life, that Jesus died for us. No matter what difficulties we may be experiencing we need to keep our eyes focused on Jesus, to live in the spirit not the flesh. Please pray for me and my family. I pray and bless you and the work you do.

Christina says 7.10.2010, 3:35 p.m.

In this day and age it is difficult to stand strong and refuse to give into the temptations of our culture. Our society has become obsessed with sex and anything having to do with it. Just watch T.V. and you'll see right away that many commercials feature scenes and innuendos that no one would have dreamed would have ever been allowed years ago. As God's people we must follow Jesus' example and not give into what is "popular."

Alan says 7.8.2010, 11:05 p.m.

Thank you for the message and the needed help that this gives me to say no. Please pray for all of my family and friends.

Angie says 7.8.2010, 3:31 p.m.

Saying no and knowing God will stand with you no matter what the cost...is really scary to do when your job could be on the line...I had to do this once but I did it...I said ok Lord here it goes...the person wasn't very happy with me, I figured she would call my boss but,but must not have because I didn't loose my job. That gave me a lot of courage to say no in other things as well.

Michelle says 7.8.2010, 11:28 a.m.

Thank you so much for such a timely word. It applies to us all as we walk with the Lord everyday. Help me to be strong in the Lord and in his mighty power. May God continue to bless your ministry as you share the truth with a hurting world!

Louis says 7.8.2010, 11:18 a.m.

Praise God for all his blessings for He is able to provide the strength to say no. His Holy Spirit is our guide and teacher, just be still and listen to His voice and you will find Joy and Peace that can only come from God. When tempted or circumstances trouble you, run to Him for He is your shield, refuge and fortress. I get great comfort from Peggy Joyce Ruth's book on Psalm 91. PTL

Anne says 7.8.2010, 09:55 a.m.

Thank you so much for i know that, it is only by God's power that we can say No.

Romulus says 7.8.2010, 05:43 a.m.

I pray to the Lord for his blessing to increase on your church. Your sermon confirmed to me that Jesus is with me. Just few days ago i had said "NO" to my manager (who is a unbeliever in Christ Jesus) for something i was not suppose to do officially. You know what? I lost my Job the same day..now waiting for Jesus to bless me. Pls pray for me..

OPEONIFADE says 7.8.2010, 04:05 a.m.

Timely and relevant for all seasons

Heymen says 7.8.2010, 02:57 a.m.

Its so easy seems that word 'no' but so difficult when it comes to say it against yourself in God's favor. If Christ did say "no" in his favor against yours in view of our sins , where would you be today. As much as you say 'no' to the world's pleasure so much and bountifully God says 'no' to your problems and pains. Let your 'no' on earth be complemented with a resending 'yes' in your favor from above.

Milind says 7.8.2010, 02:24 a.m.

Excellent as usual, reaching to the depths of the heart. May the Lord enable us to say 'no' when we have to say it for His glory.

Daniel says 7.8.2010, 01:22 a.m.

Thanks for this message. It is touched me right now. It make me to re-direct my thoughts in a right way. Hope I will please God in all my ways.

Mariam says 7.8.2010, 01:17 a.m.

Man I needed this article. I had started dating someone whom just wanted me for sex. it took 3 years to figure this out. I was a virgin and let it all go away. He claimed to be a christian too. Man I feel bad still, but day by day God and I are putting the pieces together. Church never talked about this. How people deceive you, even Christians.

Charlene says 7.8.2010, 00:39 a.m.

First let me say Billy Graham is still telling it like it is! No matter what our age is, we all have to keep doing the right thing. Sometimes it takes a no.....May God continue to bless this ministry.

Paco M.O. says 7.8.2010, 00:23 a.m.

Thanks a lot! God talked to me by these words, I needed to hear them....

Diane says 7.7.2010, 10:21 p.m.

Thank you for selecting this message of Dr. Graham's - they are always a strong reminder of what I learned as a 'preacher's daughter' - God bless the BGEA as it continues proclaiming God's Word

Cindy says 7.7.2010, 8:30 p.m.

Thank you, thank you, God richly bless you.

Grace says 7.7.2010, 7:45 p.m.

It's really Good.. Makes you think where you stand in your spiritual life..

John says 7.7.2010, 5:36 p.m.

This is a very good article on fleeing youthful lusts and temptation. Sin lieth at the door. Satan wants to strike at any time, never give him the opportunity to yield to him. For the wages of sin is death. What you earn for sin is death, repent and turn to Jesus, He will bless your life and empower you with The Holy Spirit and you will receive power to do The Fathers Will. And be witnesses.

Elizabeth Brown says 7.7.2010, 5:17 p.m.

I enjoyed this article very much. It's so funny how the word "no" is so simple but is difficult for some to say. For me "no" is still challenging because I've always been a "yes" person. But thank God since Jesus has come into my life He has helped me and continues to help me to make the right decisions of when I need to say "yes" and when I definitely need to say "no".

Al says 7.7.2010, 4:16 p.m.

Like all of Mr. Graham' sermons, accessible, personal with a "how to" aspect that I love. I am a recovering alcoholic and am guided by the words of Christ alone. I obey Him and walk in faith knowing that I'm right where the Lord wants me to be, no matter what the situation.

ENRIQUE says 7.7.2010, 11:54 a.m.

VERY GOOD ARTICLE.

Jerry Woods says 7.7.2010, 03:04 a.m.

Thank you for reminding me of God's grace and salvation. I love the Lord because he first love me. Amen

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