BGEA: How should I deal with someone who wants nothing to do with God, and cuts me off if I mention anything about God or Jesus or church?

How should I deal with someone who wants nothing to do with God, and cuts me off if I mention anything about God or Jesus, or even something about my church? I work with this person every day, and she and I get along fine except for this. — Mrs. N.L.

I'm grateful you are concerned about your friend's spiritual condition, because even if she denies it, she needs the forgiveness and new life that only Christ can give to her. Never forget Jesus' words: "For the Son of man came to seek and to save what was lost" (Luke 19:10).

It would be interesting to know why she is so opposed to God—and someday you might ask her. Her reason could be almost anything, from an oppressive childhood to the conviction that all Christians are hypocrites. Do whatever you can to answer her questions or objections (without getting into an argument)—but realize too that whatever she tells you may only be part of the story. Her deeper reason may simply be that she wants to run her own life and doesn't want God to interfere with her plans.

That is why the most important thing you can do is to pray for her. Only God can open her heart; only He can convict her of her sins and convince her of the truth of the Gospel. You are not working with her by accident; God put you there to be His witness.

In addition, ask God to help you be a witness to Christ by the way you live. People may argue with our words but they can't argue with our lives. Jesus said, "You are the light of the world. ... Let your light shine before men, that they may see your good deeds and praise your Father in heaven" (Matthew 5:14,16).

3 Comments

Cindy says 7.23.2011, 10:04 a.m.

You can win your husband to Christ and/or into a deeper relationship with Him through your kind and loving words and actions. Think love. Act loving to him. Speak loving and kind words. He will soon stand up and take notice that something is very different and he wants that something - Christ living in and through you. So don't nag him to go to church or complain. Go yourself and walk out your faith. Your faithfulness to God will bring your husband closer to Christ. Pray!!!

b says 4.19.2011, 03:49 a.m.

I basically had the same problem as well. All i can say is that the best thing to do is pray for him. Only God can truly change our hearts. And always remember, God before anyone and anything. Don't let yourself slip further from God. Instead, focus on God and no one else. You could go to church even if it does mean going alone. You may even influence your husband by doing so. Also, have alone times with God every day by praying and reading at least one chapter in the Bible. Pray to Him to forgive you of your sins and tell him all your concerns and worries. Pray that He guides both you and your husband as well. I'll also pray for you both. Keep having faith! I wish you the best!

d says 2.21.2011, 8:27 p.m.

i have almost the same problem. My husband and I met and fell in love...we have been married for 3 years and he is non active catholic, where as I grew up going to baptist church every sunday and on wednesday nights. We dont go to church at all, I have tried everything ...even telling him I will go to a catholic church as long as he goes but he will come up with some excuse. Meanwhile I just feel myself getting furthur and further away from Christ and it really scares me when I stop and let myself think about it. I really dont know what to do. How to get him interested in the church. Or how to get him interested in a baptist church..I would appreciate any guidance.. We have moved across the country and I really dont know who to go to as my family is not here.