BGEA: I left my husband a few months ago, and now I've gotten involved with another man. I don't know how I got into this mess.

Our marriage was on the rocks for years, and finally I packed up and left a few months ago. Now I've gotten involved with a man I know I'll never love, but I can't seem to walk away. I don't know why I'm writing, but maybe you can pray for me. I don't know how I got into this mess. — Mrs. K.K.

I don't know how you got into it either—but I do know this: The longer you continue this relationship, the less likely you are to find happiness.

Both human experience and the Bible teach us a very important truth: Bad decisions always lead to bad results. The Bible puts it this way: "Do not be deceived: God cannot be mocked. A man reaps what he sows. The one who sows to please his sinful nature, from that nature will reap destruction" (Galatians 6:7-8). Those are sobering words&mdahs;but they are true.

Perhaps your life has been marked by bad decisions in the past—but that's no reason for you to keep making them! Right now, you may feel lonely and unloved, and perhaps this is why you've gotten into the relationship. But it will never provide the love and emotional security you crave—so why keep going down this road? The Bible says, "A prudent man (or woman) sees danger and takes refuge, but the simple keep going and suffer for it" (Proverbs 22:3).

The most important thing I can urge you to do, however, is to turn to Christ and open your heart and life to Him. He loves you, and He wants to forgive your sins and give you the stability and peace you need. Commit your life to Him today, and then ask Him to give you the wisdom and courage to do what is right.

3 Comments

Sheila says 10.16.2011, 00:05 a.m.

Unfortunately I believe feeling lonely and unloved is one of the reasons many women leave their husbands. My experience was very tragic and very hurtful to many family members. Life altering experience. In the midst of it, I could not see it. Being out of it, I thank God Almighty for his grace and mercy. We all make excuses why we did it. We have messes in our lives due to disobedience. No matter what situation anyone reading this is in. Turn towards God. He is the Truth and the Light. The Alpha and Omega. Our Redeemer!

Sha says 4.13.2011, 8:23 p.m.

Hi Kristen. Hopefully you'll see this message. Your comment caught my attention. I just wanted to be an encouragement to you.There is much that I could say, but not from experience, honestly. Yet, the Word remains true for all of us. First know that it's not too late to change. It's absolutely your choice to begin the process of changing. Romans 8:1 teaches that there is no condemnation for those in Christ who choose to live spiritually. So God isn't sending guilt if you choose Him and His ways. As a matter of fact 1 John 4:18 teaches that there is no fear in love; that you do not need to fear punishment. God's perfect love casts out all fear. Also Jesus encounter with the Samaritan woman at the well comes to mind. In John chapter 4 Jesus (GOD HIMSELF) had an in depth conversation with a woman that He knew had had 5 husbands and was living with a man that she wasn't married to. Notice Jesus willingness to talk with her. Jesus said He didn't come for the righteous, but for sinners (Mark 2:17). Please take time to see Jesus heart in John chapter 8 when He stands up for the woman CAUGHT in the very act of adultery. The passage concludes with Jesus saying "Neither do I condemn you; go and sin no more." It's no different for you. The Bible teaches us that Jesus Christ is "the same yesterday, today and forever"(Hebrews 13:8). I pray that this was an encouragement.Keep your head up!

kristen says 1.21.2011, 3:57 p.m.

I too am dow this road. I have been in Christ for 18 years. I divorced my husband, and am involved with another man. I live with him and living in sin I do know. We sleep together, and I know this is wrong, I don't know what happened to me either. I feel ashamed, guilty, horrible. I do love this man though, I want to do what is right, Im afraid to move on to get it right. I cry out to God everyday, I do feel the weight of my sin. I have 3 children...What have I done. I have my regrets...please help me and pray for me. My xhusband did not treat me right, drank to much, I coulndn't take the harassment, and the emothional abuse. I ended up having an affair with a christian man. Brief, we repented, then I met the man I'm with now. What to do?