My Answer

My wife and I are legally separated, and it's about broken my heart (she was the one who demanded it, and now she's living with another man). I firmly believe God wants us back together but she won't even talk to me. I feel like I'm at a dead end, and I don't know what to do. Is there any hope for us? — G.H.

Humanly speaking, there may not seem to be much hope—but there always is with God. Jesus once said, "What is impossible with men is possible with God" (Luke 18:27).

Perhaps you've heard people say, "When all else fails, then pray." In one way, it's not very sound advice; we ought to pray first, not after we've tried everything else! But it still came to mind when I read your letter, because even when no other avenue seems open to us, God has still given us the privilege of prayer. The Bible says, "This is the confidence we have in approaching God: that if we ask anything according to his will, he hears us" (1 John 5:14).

Does this mean if you pray enough God will definitely restore your marriage? I wish I could promise that—but to be honest, I can't. Your wife has apparently turned her back on God and allowed herself to become entangled by Satan's lies, and his hold on her may be very strong. But I pray not.

In the meantime, keep praying, and do whatever you can to let your wife know of your love. If you also were at fault in some way, confess it to God and seek His forgiveness—as well as your wife's. Most of all, trust Christ for your future, and keep trusting Him no matter what happens.

 

3 Comments

Boweeva says 12.22.2011, 04:31 a.m.

I'm also going through a similar situation. We have been married 18 years with 5 kids. I was unfaithful. She has a right to forgive or divorce. Right now we are separated and it kills me. I am completely sincere when I say I repent! Please pray for us!

Jim says 6.17.2011, 7:10 p.m.

I am going through the exact situation and am thankful for your posts. My wife left me and is already with another man. I've resisted the urge to commit to someone else simply because it doesn't feel right. She also told me she didn't love me any more and frankly it has broken me down and left my heart empty. I struggle each day to focus on what God has in store and ask for your prayers in doing so. Either way I can say your not alone and I know how you feel... I know God does too.

Louis says 2.7.2011, 11:26 p.m.

I am also going through a similar situation, my wife is leaving me for another man (ex-boyfriend). As soon as she gets a job she is out. She is seeing him once a week and that kills me. I just want my family back and I am doing everything to win her over but she says she is already checked out and doesn't love me. She wants a new start and is tired of our marriage. Lord please help fill us with the Holy Spirit and reveal what it is you would have us to do Lord ...

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