BGEA: I'm tempted to go on the Internet and sign up for one of those dating services. Do you think that would be a good idea?

I really want to get married, but I haven't found anyone, and now I'm beginning to wonder if I ever will. Maybe I'm getting panicky, but I'm tempted to go on the Internet and sign up for one of those dating services. Do you think that would be a good idea? — D.W.

One of the most important decisions you'll ever make is your decision about the person you will marry. Almost every day I get at least one letter from someone who rushed blindly into marriage and has lived to regret it. I pray you won't make that mistake.

That's why the most important advice I can give you is for you to turn this very important area of your life over to God. God loves you, and He knows what is best for you. More than that, He knows your needs and He knows who the person is with whom you should spend the rest of your life. The Bible's words apply to this area of your life as well as everything else that affects you: "As for God, his way is perfect" (Psalm 18:30).

Begin by making sure of your relationship with Jesus Christ. If you've never done so, turn to Him in repentance and faith, and invite Him into your life today. Then turn this area of your life over to Him, and ask Him to direct your path. The Bible says, "Come ... let us walk in the light of the Lord" (Isaiah 2:5).

While some may find happiness through the Internet, let me urge you instead to get involved in a church where Christ is preached and lived. You are much more likely to meet the person of God's choice there—someone who will not only love you, but with whom you can serve God.

7 Comments

Kj says 1.21.2012, 2:58 p.m.

I found that Christians still can be unequally yoke in their walks. Till I can surrender myself totally to Christ, body,mind and spirit. I'm not whole. Isaac and Rebecca where not on the Internet but found her in the desert.

gh says 7.15.2011, 9:04 p.m.

I was divorced in 1989 my ex-husband is now deceased I've also been a christian since 1981. I've been praying since that time to meet another husband but have not met anyone. I'm now 57yrs old and still hoping to meet someone. Is it limiting God if we seek a husband thru the internet.

Sarah says 7.13.2011, 6:30 p.m.

You're kidding, right? Of course if you pray God will listen but He does not expect us to sit idle and just wait for divine intervention. As long as you are clear on your profile that you are seeking a fellow believer and make sure to really get to know them and their faith then there is nothing wrong with internet dating. My church, for one, has about zero marriage-aged single men.

Edem says 6.5.2011, 1:37 p.m.

I really do agree to the answer of the servant of God. I had to pause and analyze my relationship with God. He made me understand that Knowing Him and knowing how to love Him will make it easy for me know how to love the man He, God will give me. Keep waiting on God.

Dee says 2.9.2011, 09:03 a.m.

I totally agree wih The Pastor because I did not seek God first before rushing to marry my long time boyfriend and am now regretting the decision. I am paying for it now and praying that God should have mercy on me and forgive me. I am 10 years into the marriage and wish be out.

tw says 12.23.2010, 5:00 p.m.

I have been pondering with that same question, but i decided to change my ways in grow closer to God, because he knows what's best for us and who will be the one for us.

vc says 11.26.2010, 10:42 p.m.

I agree with Dr. Graham, because I did not give this area over completely to the Lord, I have suffered greatly. I started to panic and thought I would never meet that special "one", so I didn't wait on the Lord. Believe me, my heart has been shattered. God knows what is best for us and God knows who will love you and care for you. Do not allow Satan to use this weakness against you. Wait on the Lord..