BGEA: My boyfriend claims the Bible says children born out of wedlock can't go to heaven. Is he right?

I know I've messed up my life, but I don't want to make things worse. My boyfriend is demanding I get an abortion, but I don't want to. The reason he gives me is that he claims the Bible says children who are born out of wedlock can't ever go to heaven. Is he right? — W.S.

No, he is not right. Not one verse in the Bible supports what he says—and to be frank, I suspect he is only claiming this because he wants to persuade you to end your pregnancy.

But two wrongs do not make a right. Yes, it was wrong for you to have sexual relations outside of marriage—but it would also be wrong for you to end the life of the unborn child who is growing within you. I know many today would not agree because they contend a fetus is not a child. But the Bible does not support this. God told Jeremiah, "Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, before you were born I set you apart" (Jeremiah 1:5).

How can you get on the right road? Begin by turning your life over to the One who gave it to you. God made you, and God loves you—and because He loves you, He doesn't want you to go through life making one mistake after another. By a simple step of faith ask Christ to come into your life, and then commit your future to Him.

Then seek God's help for the hard decisions you face. Only He can give you the wisdom and courage you need to do what is right and turn from what is wrong. God has a better life for you, for "no good thing does he withhold from those whose walk is blameless" (Psalm 84:11).

7 Comments

Miah says 4.25.2013, 00:16 a.m.

I am now carrying a child out of wedlock .. my only wish is that he/she is not born out of wedlock .. the father and i have been seperated almost a month out of a 2 yr relationship.. i know that you guys dont know me but i would appreciate prayers!!

Paris says 5.17.2012, 12:42 a.m.

I'm 18 and had found out i was pregnant at 16. I was afraid for her because i made her out of wedlock. God will forgive you but break the bastard curse from your child and she/he will be OK but give yourself to God and follow his ways.

S.L. says 1.28.2012, 04:39 a.m.

My son is three months and I Am thankful I choose life for him. AS for your question no babies go to heaven they're innocent. P.s. no man is worth your child killed over because that baby is a part of you. I hope this helps.

S.L says 1.28.2012, 04:35 a.m.

I was so devastated.... I remember the Lord spoke to me life and death r not in ur hands. God, helped me thru it. Yes, I felt the shame,guilt,hurt. but just know god is still with you. People will judge you regardless either you single,rich,poor

S.L. says 1.28.2012, 04:30 a.m.

I was in a similar situation, my husband and I were separated and I started working and began seeing my boss. I got pregnant and my boss wanted me to abort. I choose life for my son and my sons father didn't agree and left me.

mary says 12.22.2011, 8:56 p.m.

Hello a friend told me that God does not require him to support his child because the child was born out of wedlock.

Lori says 9.14.2011, 10:53 p.m.

(I write from experience. Also, it became necessary for me to leave those that became more abusive as I refused to abort my child. I was alone. But whether I understood it or not at the time, God was there. Although I had nothing, GOD provided for both me and my child. God will meet your needs as well. We just need to trust Him and He will show that He is reliable. I gave my life to Jesus and am so glad I did.)Because God cares, provides, can restore us in Jesus, and blesses when we honor His ways, and is full of truth, please understand the following: Those who purposefully manipulate information regarding something especially that important, are not worth being around (remember, the Bible teaches that Satan is the father of lies). This means they are not sincere with you, and are being selfish. This means they are spiritually corrupt. This clearly means that they need to repent. Pray for the individual who does wrong, but also recognize that you must do what is right in God's eyes, as He is the one who truly loves you. In the end, only God's views will matter. God will give you the strength you need. If you turn to Him, you can be assured that He will never leave you or forsake you. People may disappoint you, but God will not disappoint you. We need to align ourselves with God's truth. You will find your self-worth in Him. It is important to seek help from the Church as they will be able to find practical supports, offer prayer that will make a difference.