My Answer

We were pretty wild when we got married, but about four years ago I gave my life to Christ, and He has really changed me. But my husband refuses to have anything to do with it, and now says either I forget Christ or he's leaving. What should I do? — Mrs. B.L.

I know you feel like you're being torn in two—and in a sense you are, for you are facing a very difficult situation. I pray, however, that you will stay faithful to Christ, and trust Him for the future.

Think of it this way: If you could look back over your life a hundred years from now, what would you conclude was the most important decision you ever made? It would be your decision for Christ—because it determined your eternal salvation. To put it another way, a hundred years from now, you wouldn't trade anything for that decision.

More than that, in heaven you will realize just how much God loves you, and you will realize just how much Christ suffered for you. The Bible says, "He was despised and rejected by men, a man of sorrows, and familiar with suffering" (Isaiah 53:3). If He suffered this much for us, shouldn't we be willing to suffer for Him?

You face a situation that isn't common today—but it was to the first Christians. To them the Apostle Paul wrote, "If a woman has a husband who is not a believer and is willing to live with her, she must not divorce him. But if the unbeliever leaves, let him do so" (1 Corinthians 7:13, 15). I pray it will not reach this extreme in your case, but that your husband will realize his own need of forgiveness and yield his life to Christ.

 

4 Comments

chass says 8.8.2012, 3:29 p.m.

i've been going through something similar but not to the point where my husband wants to leave, yet. He told me that he feels neglected, mainly because i've changed so much and im not the wild child he married. i just pray and try to show love...

William says 7.21.2012, 11:12 a.m.

I'm going through the same thing with my wife. The worst thing I could do would be to force feed her what I know now to be the truth. The best thing to do is pray constantly that God will quicken her heart.

Elena says 1.11.2012, 9:54 p.m.

I'm going through a similar situation and I've learned the worst thing I did is try to convince my husband to accept God which pushed him even further away. Instead, pour your love over him, pray and let God do His work in your husband's heart.

Mr Pill says 1.2.2012, 4:58 p.m.

Hello, I know exactly what you are going through, but by prayer Phil 4:6-7, Seeking Biblical Counseling, James 1 Count these trials Joy. Prayer, Accountability, Church and continue to show the Love of Christ in the house without mentioning scriptures

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