My Answer

When should we avoid criticizing someone when they do something that's wrong, and when should we confront them? A woman I work with is always talking about how she's a Christian, but she also has the foulest mouth of anyone in our office. Should I just ignore this, although I think it's wrong? — Mrs. P.L.

The Bible tells us to avoid being judgmental or harsh toward others, and not to criticize someone unless we have a sound reason to do so. The Bible says, "A man's wisdom gives him patience; it is to his glory to overlook an offense" (Proverbs 19:11).

However, the Bible also tells us that we have a responsibility to help others in their spiritual walk with God. One way we may do this is by encouraging them to face any sins that still have a grip on their lives. God is not only displeased when we sin—He is also dishonored. When we sin, we give people who don't believe in God an excuse to keep on in their unbelief. The Bible says, "let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds" (Hebrews 10:24).

Pray for this person, and ask God to help you confront her with this problem. Do so privately, however, and with gentleness, love and humility. The Bible says, "if someone is caught in a sin, you who are spiritual should restore him gently. But watch yourself, or you also may be tempted" (Galatians 6:1).

If she is a believer, she needs to realize that what she's doing is wrong. And if she is not, she needs to face her spiritual condition and yield her life to Christ.

 

2 Comments

Elizabeth says 4.7.2011, 3:32 p.m.

Thank you for publishing this. I think I did the wrong thing by no longer being friends with a person who really messed up but I wasn't sure what to do because they weren't sorry for what they had done and even used God as an excuse to beat up on others. This was someone God had used in the past to mentor me. Now that I know the truth in light of Scripture I'll be ready if and when they come back to speak to me. Thanks again, prayers would always be helpful. :)

Margie says 8.26.2010, 8:53 p.m.

I agree with this totally. I believe that we should not judge others but we should love others. I say don't look at the person, look at what is behind the person. JESUS would never turn anyone away...He came to save the lost..

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