BGEA: I am facing a divorce, what can I do?

I am facing a divorce, what can I do?

We are sorry to learn that your marriage is being threatened by divorce. God desires that you experience His love and comfort even in the midst of these circumstances. First of all, we encourage you to make certain that you have completely committed your life to Christ by faith. A proper relationship to the Lord Jesus Christ can permit one to live with a sense of peace and security when experiencing heartache and difficulties.

Isaiah 40:31 says, "They that wait upon the Lord shall renew their strength." Commit each day and each passing hour into the care of our wonderful Lord, and permit Him to direct your life and meet your needs.

Complete fulfillment in marriage can never be realized outside of the life in Christ. This is the foundation upon which a Christian home is built, where beautiful harmony abides and grows through mutual love, trust, and respect between the marriage partners.

Prayerful consideration of God's Word is most important. Read the responsibilities given to husbands and wives in 1 Peter 3:1-7, Ephesians 5:21-33, and 1 Corinthians, chapter 7. Pray earnestly that the Holy Spirit will reveal God's plan for you and your spouse.

Should it be possible to have your marriage restored, seek counsel together with a gospel-teaching pastor or Christian marriage counselor, that he may assist you in establishing a firm foundation for your marriage.

It is important that you now live constructively for Christ and experience God's will and purpose for living. We encourage you to join with other Christians in Bible study and prayer to satisfy your need for fellowship.

If you have not already done so, organize your day so that you will have a special time to spend alone with God, being faithful to observe a time of Bible reading, prayer, and praise. Be faithful to observe this "quiet time," for it is a vital line to heaven which will give you the strength to overcome discouragement, to discern God's will in your present circumstances, and to walk obediently with Him.

2 Comments

Rebecca says 1.13.2011, 00:24 a.m.

I am going thru a very painful separation. My husband became abusive within a few weeks of finding out from my Doctor that I cant have children. Finally after 2 and a half yrs he threw me out at Christmas. i have been warned not to go back because of fear for my safety. I have found a new church and joined the choir my first Sunday. I plan to carry on with my new life and my new love...Jesus Christ. He knows what its like to be betrayed by His best friends who He loved (in the garden). I miss my husband and dont know what the future holds but I can now hear God speak to me louder than ever and I dont want it to stop. I think about Brian and pray for him. I know he cant like himself very much and be able to do all hes done to me...I also know his walk with God is suffering...we both need time to heal... the rest is in God's hands!

Doris says 9.12.2010, 10:08 p.m.

My daughter is having marriage problems and needs answers that will help her. My heart breaks, whenever I think of her hurting the way she is. She loves her husband and wants to work it out, but refuses to talk to someone. He has decided to move out and says his feeling are not like they once were. What do you do when your husband of 20 years says he doesn't love you any longer. She had cancer 15 years ago and i can't stand to see her hurting the way she is. I have no answer. Thank you for your help.