BGEA: I have a loved one who is gay. Where can I find help?

I have a loved one who is gay. Where can I find help?

The realization that someone you love is gay can be a shattering experience. If you are trusting in Jesus as your personal Savior and Lord, you can be conscious of your Heavenly Father's great love for you and your loved one (Jeremiah 31:3). God is the One who is able to transform lives and heal the scars of painful memories. We want to assure you that any willing person can be liberated from homosexuality through the power of Jesus Christ; see 1 Corinthians 6:9-11, especially verse 11. If your loved one is not yet willing to seek freedom from homosexuality, or seems unable to find it, then you should pray earnestly for his or her release. James 5:16 states: "The earnest prayer of a righteous person has great power and produces wonderful results" (NLT).

Center your attention on God and His wonderful plan for your lives. Ask Him to fill you with His Holy Spirit and help you to radiate His love, joy, and peace. The manifestation of the love of Christ is much more effective than argument in assuring others of our great love and concern. Also, ask God to give you wisdom to deal with the situation (James 1:5).

Many parents and loved ones of homosexuals have found encouragement through Spatula Ministries of San Diego, Web site: www.spatulasandiego.com. "Someone I Love Is Gay" is a helpful book by Anita Worthen and Bob Davies available in Christian bookstores or from Regeneration Books, P.O. Box 9830, Baltimore, MD 21284, telephone: (410) 661-0284.

For more information about homosexuality and Christian ministries in your area which offer support and guidance for those impacted by homosexuality, contact Exodus International, P. O. Box 540119, Orlando, FL 32854, telephone: (888) 264-0877; Homosexuals Anonymous Fellowship Services (H.A.F.S.), P.O. Box 7881, Reading, PA 19603, telephone: (610) 779-2500; or, P-FOX (Parents and Friends of Ex-Gays), P.O. Box 561, Fort Belvore, VA 22060, telephone: (703) 360-2225.

As you turn your loved one over to Jesus, you will discover the truth of Philippians 4:4-7, "Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus."

18 Comments

Nicole says 3.22.2013, 11:06 a.m.

God sees gender and loves everyone. I think it saddens God when we go against God's given plan to become a certain gender but go against it. That's telling God he made a mistake. All born with challenges to be used testimon. We were created for God.

Sandra says 2.27.2013, 6:16 p.m.

Dear mom your daughter is not walking away from Christ, she is walking away from the people who say speak in the name of God but know only to bring condemnation and judgement, give her love, mercy and grace, truly love her for who she is.

jordan says 9.4.2012, 9:31 p.m.

Being gay or lesbian is not a lifestyle. No one, regardless of age, love of the Lord, wakes up 1 day and says "I think I will be gay". It's not like choosing what shoes to wear. Support these loved ones or you will lose them. Mathew 7:1-5, Luke 6:37

jess says 8.7.2012, 07:43 a.m.

All these comments made me sad.

William says 5.7.2012, 9:49 p.m.

Do not turn on your children, brother, sister, or relatives. God loves everybody . talk to them about it. Imagine the hurt you would feel if your family turned on you. You shouldn't be asking for prayers to change them, but should be standing by them

Chris says 3.5.2012, 00:53 a.m.

God is love. My pastor David Jeremiah just preached about the love of God today. I believe that a big mistake that Christians make is harsh judgment of others. Lead them to God through love and forgiveness as God does.

Anne says 2.25.2012, 00:58 a.m.

After 32 years of being married, my husband confessed to having an affair with a man for 5 years. I am so hurt, depressed and very scared. I pray each day for him, but he recently told me he will ' never' be with me as a husband again.

George says 1.6.2012, 11:11 a.m.

I came back to God after 30 years of running from Him because I believed He couldn't love a gay man. Then He brought my boyfriend of 5 years to me to show me that He loves us all, and my boyfriend is who brought me back to God. God sees no gender.

mandie says 12.4.2011, 04:11 a.m.

my child says they are bi-sexual, pray for my family I am heart broken more because he is walking away from God.

Brandie says 10.17.2011, 00:36 a.m.

I just found out my 20 year old son is gay. I want him to be happy and to a strong relationship with Christ. Please pray for my whole family. I know that Gods love is for everyone even my son.

Jordan says 9.25.2011, 08:16 a.m.

I understand that all of these "changes" for you guys are hard to understand. Give it time. Love them. You might not believe the way they are is right. Just don't turn your back on them. Gay suicide is a huge issue. Also, please know. Gay IS NOT a lifestyle. You CHOOSE lifestyles.

charlene says 7.5.2011, 10:31 p.m.

This is not a lifestyle..this is a life. We do not question or condemn you for being heterosexuals. We are all sinners, there are no degrees worse than others.

mom says 5.29.2011, 9:30 p.m.

I have a 19 yr old daughter who came home in Oct and told me she was questioning her sexuality. She has always had a strong walk w/the Lord but now she has totally walked away from Him and is in a relationship. She has started dressing boyish w/little to no makeup. I took her to talk to someone but she hated it. My heart is broken to see her make this choice but to walk away from Christ, kills me!

mitch says 4.25.2011, 10:35 p.m.

God loves everybody...That is why he died for all of us. However, the choice is ours, whether or not we will accept. In order to accept this gift, we must be willing to follow and lead a life that is acceptable to the giver.

Internet@BGEA says 3.1.2011, 2:47 p.m.

Jan, We would like to pray and provide some encouragement. Please call 1-877-247-2426 to talk and pray with someone. There are people here who care. Or, you can send a private email to help@bgea.org. We will continue to keep you in prayer. The BGEA Internet team.

Jan says 3.1.2011, 2:31 p.m.

I live in NH and looking for support as a Mom with a daughter in a lesbian lifestyle.

George says 1.27.2011, 1:22 p.m.

I think people should accept the fact that God made homosexuals and does not hate them. Love is sacred, regardless of the loved ones involved.

Barb says 1.22.2011, 12:28 a.m.

I have a brother, 1 of 3, who after being married for approx. 18 years and having 3 children has turned to the gay life style. When this first came out I was totally crushed. Very sad and scared. I have talked with him about this, recommended christian counseling, given him a bible and prayed for him. I try to express my concern for this dangerous life style and what God says about it.He stays away from conversation as much as possible. We have always been the closest of 5 siblings and this has been extremely difficult. He did share a situation with me about one of his partners being unfaithful to him. I told him to stay away as he treated my brother poorly most of the time also. After several months I know he is back in this dangerous relationship. This scares me and makes me very sad. I pray for him but don't know what else I could do.