I have a loved one who is gay. Where can I find help?
The realization that someone you love is gay can be a shattering experience. If you are trusting in Jesus as your personal Savior and Lord, you can be conscious of your Heavenly Father's great love for you and your loved one (Jeremiah 31:3). God is the One who is able to transform lives and heal the scars of painful memories. We want to assure you that any willing person can be liberated from homosexuality through the power of Jesus Christ; see 1 Corinthians 6:9-11, especially verse 11. If your loved one is not yet willing to seek freedom from homosexuality, or seems unable to find it, then you should pray earnestly for his or her release. James 5:16 states: "The earnest prayer of a righteous person has great power and produces wonderful results" (NLT).
Center your attention on God and His wonderful plan for your lives. Ask Him to fill you with His Holy Spirit and help you to radiate His love, joy, and peace. The manifestation of the love of Christ is much more effective than argument in assuring others of our great love and concern. Also, ask God to give you wisdom to deal with the situation (James 1:5).
Many parents and loved ones of homosexuals have found encouragement through Spatula Ministries of San Diego, Web site: www.spatulasandiego.com. "Someone I Love Is Gay" is a helpful book by Anita Worthen and Bob Davies available in Christian bookstores or from Regeneration Books, P.O. Box 9830, Baltimore, MD 21284, telephone: (410) 661-0284.
For more information about homosexuality and Christian ministries in your area which offer support and guidance for those impacted by homosexuality, contact Exodus International, P. O. Box 540119, Orlando, FL 32854, telephone: (888) 264-0877; Homosexuals Anonymous Fellowship Services (H.A.F.S.), P.O. Box 7881, Reading, PA 19603, telephone: (610) 779-2500; or, P-FOX (Parents and Friends of Ex-Gays), P.O. Box 561, Fort Belvore, VA 22060, telephone: (703) 360-2225.
As you turn your loved one over to Jesus, you will discover the truth of Philippians 4:4-7, "Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus."