Q: My family and I have had a couple of bad experiences in the last two churches we attended (mainly because of controversies that eventually split both of them). We're very disillusioned and have just about given up on finding a new church. I thought Christians were supposed to get along with each other. — Mrs. J.G.


A:  Dear Mrs. J.G.,
Who do you think is overjoyed when Christians don't get along and churches are rent by unnecessary conflict? Is God overjoyed—or Satan? I think you know the answer. Among the things that the Lord is said to hate is "a man who stirs up dissension among brothers" (Proverbs 6:19).

I'm very sorry you've had these two bad experiences—and I hope you won't let them sour you on church or keep you from finding another one. Christian fellowship is one of God's greatest gifts to us, helping us grow and stay strong spiritually. Ask God to lead you to a church where Christ is preached and the Bible is taught, and where a spirit of love binds people together. Jesus said, "By this all men will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another" (John 13:35).

Remember that no church is perfect. As someone has quipped, if you found one that was, it would stop being perfect the minute you joined! That's why your focus should be on Christ, for only He is perfect.

In addition, ask God to lead you to a church where you can serve Him. Churchgoing shouldn't be a spectator sport! Instead, ask God to use you to make your church a place where He is honored and Christ's love rules.